While mentoring, we have observed a unique problem between students and their parents. There is no good relationship between them, and there comes a point where children start communicating less and drifting away from their homes and into the outside world to spend their time. This blog is in continuation of our previous blog, which highlights why, despite genuinely caring for each other, students may drift away from their parents:
Sibling preference
While continuously highlighting the good qualities of one child in front of the other child, parents unknowingly negatively affect the other child. Somehow, the other child does not like this behavior and starts feeling that the parent is favoring one child over the other. It is important to play a balancing act of identifying the unique qualities of the other child and praising them as well. Otherwise, these comparisons can cause negativity, and the other child may drift away from the parents.
Lack of harmonious home environment
In some homes, there is a lack of a harmonious home environment for a child to study. Examples of activities that cause disruption to the harmony and environment at home are visits by too many relatives, events being attended by all family members, and other duties burdening parents. In such cases, children may not find their homes suitable for studies, and they may drift to other places or engage in other non-study activities.
Mismatch between parents
In some parent couples, there could be some form of personal differences, differences in approaches towards children’s preparations, mismatch of priorities about child’s preparation support, or lack of emotional support for each other. In such situations, a child may get confused due to these issues because the parents are not on the same wavelength and stop finding comfort in either parent.
New distractions
Lastly, even when everything may be balanced at home, the child can drift away due to not-so-good company and distractions such as mobile games, social media, or going out. Parents should not police the child but try to get involved in the child’s activities so that they are on the same page as their child.
So, dear parents, all the above factors are equally important in judging a child’s potential. It requires some extra effort from parents to allow their children to focus properly and not get swayed away from their goals. If your children need any support, please do not hesitate to reach out to mentors and teachers.
About Mentor and Mom
Mentor and Mom is an initiative by Dr. Monika Mittal and her two IITian sons, Ameya Mittal and Sarthak Mittal. With our enriched experience and practice over the years, we provide mentoring and effective study tips to help you prepare for JEE, NEET, and other exams. We aim to build a happy, healthy, and motivated student community!
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