Part two “Are you unknowingly the reason for your child feeling irritated during JEE / NEET preparation?”

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Are you unknowingly the reason for your child feeling irritated during JEE / NEET preparation?

As we deal with study habits and mentoring, we come to know many students who are not comfortable at home due to certain habits of their parents. We covered certain points in our part one of similar topic. Here we tell you few more situations where children feel irritated at home and how to deal with it.

1. Fight / Loud arguments between parents

Many times parents have ideological differences and their differences escalate to loud arguments/fights between them. In most cases, a child feels most uncomfortable in this situation and get distracted from their studies. Many times children get closer to their friends which can further be a source of distractions. It’s a sensitive issue and none of the parents wish to disturb the mental peace of their children. This problem should be identified at an earlier stage and the need of counselor should be considered to deal with the situation.

2. Stricter rules and stressfull environment at home

Some parents expect certain behaviour and conduct from their children and put some stricter rules. They are unable to understand the child's moods and unable to identify that they are not liking it. It’s growing up age and children need their space. Even if we need to address certain critical issues with children, as parents, we should be respectful with each other. Many times under this kind of environment, children lie about many facts to avoid punishment. So try to analyse and keep some lighter moments where children have  laughter and fun as well.

3. Unable to address differences due to generation gaps

Many parents especially professionally successful ones, compare their own past time and efforts with theirs children at present (“we used to do like this”). Sometimes it’s okay to tell them positive stories about past but many times it upsets them. So try to find out strengths in the children and avoid comparison with your past self.

4. Dual behaviour

Many parents, after getting angry with their children, suddenly show lots of love as a correction to “guilt feeling”. This confuses children and they are unable to understand their parents. Whenever you scold a child, pause and think and then use appropriate words so that you genuinely guide them and don’t feel guilty about it.

So it’s really important for parents to understand that despite enrolling with best coaching and school, your child may be feeling irritated and this could be the reason for their not so good performance. Discuss among yourself, take the help of mentor immediately if required.

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Mentor and Mom is an initiative by Dr. Monika Mittal and her two IITian sons, Ameya Mittal and Sarthak Mittal. With our enriched experience and practice over the years, we provide mentoring and effective study tips to help you prepare for JEE, NEET, and other exams. We aim to build a happy, healthy, and motivated student community!

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