As children reach IX or X standard, there is a tendency for them to become quiet and share less with their parents. Though there could be multiple factors leading to this, we highlight some typical parent behaviors which make the children quiet.
1.You are an authoritative parent
You try to correct the habits of your child and make them feel smaller. As they grow, children learn new things and want to be their own way and even though this may make you angry, controlling your anger helps both you and your child and you can always discuss with them when they are in a better mood.
2.You are an achiever parent
Parents, having achieved high success in their life, assume their children to be like them. Many times, they try to show off their achievements but the child doesn’t like it. They are simply looking for a parent who can understand their problems and solve them.
3.You are a very busy parent
Many parents are working overtime and with increasing number of working women, children are unable to get comfortable time or an occasion to discuss their problems and gradually stop sharing their thoughts.
4. You are an anxious parent
When you come to know about any problem in your child's life, instead of providing a solution and beating the problem calmly, you become anxious and blame your surroundings. A child comes to you when they know that they will get solutions to their problems.
5.You are a strict or perfectionist parent
In order to maintain discipline at home, you as a parent may be extraordinarily tough on your children. Such disciplining could include asking children to keep their belongings at the right place, studying, eating healthy etc. all the time.
6.You are having a personal crisis
In many families, there are many conflicts going on and it is advisable to avoid yelling or quarrelling in front of the child. A child doesn’t like an unhappy environment and becomes isolated in such situations.
As children are growing up and have their thoughts and ideas, they don't like orders and want caring and understanding parents. Though we as parents need to be firm on many occasions but we should try to see that we are not hurting their egos. Mutual respect and agreement goes a long way in handling teenagers.
About Mentor and Mom:
Mentor and Mom is an initiative by Dr Monika Mittal and her two IITian sons, Ameya Mittal and Sarthak Mittal. With our enriched experience and practice over the years, we provide mentoring and effective study tips to help you prepare for JEE, NEET and other exams. Our aim is to build a happy, healthy and motivated student community!
Do follow our blog posts for FREE tips! Also, you can reach out to us and send your queries on WhatsApp (8779821245) and we will be happy to help!
Comentarios